We’ve all heard that date nights with our partner are critical. We know that relationships take work in order for them to survive, and yet so often we don’t make quality time with our partner a real priority. We can feel like we are too tired, date nights are too expensive, or we simply don’t feel like going out. The truth is, date nights are important, but that doesn’t mean they have to be super extravagant. You can plan a simple date night with your partner that doesn’t break the bank or even require you to leave your home. When your date nights are simple, it’s easier to have them more often.
Some couples rarely have date nights. And some only go out once a month. And then there is the other, and probably most lame, reason date night gets cancelled – because you are too tired to go out. So if you are reading this and thinking one of these sounds a lot like your situation – you’re not alone! Even if you aren’t too tired, maybe you’re an introvert and don’t always feel like going out?
All of these hurdles can be overcome. You can overcome the obstacles and prioritise date nights for the health of your relationship, without having it feel like just another item on your to-do list.
So, how then do we make date nights a priority? I think the best way to prioritise date nights so that they actually happen is by keeping them simple. The smallest of gestures can mean a lot. Planning a low key, simple date night can still mean so much to our partner. It shows that we want to spend time with them, that we love them, and that we want to grow our relationship with them. You don’t have to spend a shit tonne of money to do that. You don’t have to plan a weekend away to do that. And you don’t even need to leave your home to do that.
Another way to prioritise date nights so they actually happen is to do what works for your current stage of life. Get creative! Don’t have a babysitter or can’t afford one? Plan dates at home when your kids are asleep. Don’t have time for a regular date night? Sneak in an early morning chat over breakfast or meet over your lunch breaks. Can’t afford to go out regularly? Go out for just a drink at your local, have a date night at home, or do something outside of the home that’s free.
If you don’t have a lot of money to work with, spend money on what you need the most. Prioritise what’s worth spending money on. If you need time away from home more than anything, spring for the babysitter but do something free. Or, if you need to have fun with your spouse more than anything, pay for an activity you both enjoy.
Finally, don’t wait for your spouse to initiate. If you want to prioritise date nights, stop thinking it’s your partner’s job to plan them. Surprise your partner with your date night plan and just go with the flow!
Date Night Ideas – Going Out!
When you or your partner really need to get out of the house, planning a simple date night out is the way to go. Here are some ideas to get you started:
- Go for a long walk
- Go for a bike ride
- Have a picnic in the park
- Go to the beach
- Go out for drinks at your local
- Take a class together
- Visit a museum
- Play crazy golf
- Go bowling
- Go for dinner at your favourite restaurant
Date Night Ideas – Staying Home
When you don’t have a babysitter or you would rather stay home, plan a simple date night in! Think about what you might do outside the home, and simply do them at home instead. Remember: you don’t have to leave the house for it to be considered date night. You just have to be alone. If you have small children, wait until they are napping or go to bed at night. If you have older kids, you could even tell them that they just need to find something to do quietly in their rooms.
Sometimes all you need is some time to connect through conversation or laughter. Here are several ideas for a simple date night in:
- Watch a movie and eat popcorn
- Have a favourite TV show marathon
- Cook together
- Play board or video games
- Have a pamper night together; take a bath, do face masks and give each other massages
- Reminisce and look at old pictures
Spending regular quality time with your spouse is incredibly important. Try to plan a simple date night regularly with your partner. I hope you have found some inspiration to prioritize time with your spouse and get creative so that it actually happens.
Thanks for reading.