Things I Have Learnt In The Last 12 Months

As you get older, you learn more and more things that can be life changing and make you feel and look at everything differently.

Over the last year, I have had a number of things happen to me that have made me think differently and want different things. So I thought what better thing to do than to share it in a blog post –

When One Door Closes, Another One Opens. Last year I was pulled into a meeting at work and was given the dreaded news that I was being made redundant. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. It was one of the most devastating things that I have been through, which I know sounds a bit dramatic but I had been in this job for 6 years and most of the time I actually loved being there. It was more than just a job to me, it was a home and somewhere that I got to hang out with my friends 5 days a week, 8 hours a day. I actually met by best friend through working here. I didn’t know what to do or where to begin when looking for a new job, how was I ever going to enjoy working anywhere else? I hate being the “new girl” and I get so paranoid about not being liked or people not wanting to talk to me because I would be the new awkward person intruding on the offices ways. However, when I started at my new job I wasn’t met by strange looks and unfriendly faces, the exact opposite actually. I have been here for almost a year now and I have made new friends, friends that I can have a laugh with and be myself around. I think back now and wonder why I cried so much and worried so much? It is just a new job, people start new jobs all the time!

Hate The Way You Look & Feel? DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Ergh. Just writing about this one makes me feel rubbish. I have, and have always had, serious issues with my weight and how I look. But last year in particular I felt my absolute worse and it really got me down. It started when we were on holiday in Gran Canaria, the first bikini I had put on all year and it disgusted me. I felt HUGE! I was uncomfortable and paranoid that people were looking at me as I had looked at myself in the mirror that morning. We returned home and I promised myself I was going to get fit and healthy…but I didn’t. Then, a friends wedding came around quickly and I had the dilemma of trying to find something to wear that didn’t make me look like a sack of potatoes…FAIL. After the wedding, I looked at the photos I had taken and I sobbed and sobbed. I couldn’t believe I had let myself get in this state after feeling so rubbish on our holiday. Enough was enough. I started my slimming world journey in January and got motivated to exercise little and often, and surprise surprise, I started losing weight and noticing a change in my body shape. I am still not 100% happy with my weight and body but I will continue to work on it, especially as I have our wedding to aim for and I have promised I will look and feel my best for that special day.

Try Something New! It Could Be Fun! I am not one for taking risks or trying something out of my comfort zone. So when me and the bestie spontaneously booked a camping weekend at V-Festival last year, I suddenly thought oh crap. I had NEVER been camping before, let alone to a festival. The months leading up to going, I was adamant I was going to hate the entire experience and would end up ditching the tent for a cosey hotel room. I also had friends telling me that I wouldn’t last five minutes camping so this gave me zero hope of survival. Well, I am happy to tell you that I survived my first camping/festival experience and I bloody LOVED it! It was honestly one of the best weekends of my life and something I will never forget. I just need to take the plunge and book something a bit more hardcore, maybe Glastonbury 2019?

Blogging is HARD! I am sure most bloggers will agree with this one. What started out as a hobby soon became an obsession. Blogging took over my life at one stage last year. I was distracted at work, I was desperate to get followers and couldn’t keep up with what was real life and what was blog life. I hit a brickwall and BAM! I had to stop. I felt too exposed to the rest of the world, I wasn’t enjoying blogging because I found myself writing about things that I really couldn’t care less about. So this time around I have sworn that I would only blog as and when I wanted to and only if I had good quality content. How am I doing so far? Let me know 🙂

Quality Over Quantity. It’s sad when you come to the realisation that people who you thought were your friends, shock you and turn out to be a foe instead. Over the last year, I have shrunk my “squad” massively. I could probably count my true and valued friendships on one hand. But that is reality, as you get older you do go separate ways and you do lose friends that you were so sure would last a life time. As an adult, I want loyalty, trust and fun in a friendship. I don’t have time for petty fall outs, bitchy comments and shit-stirring, why would anyone want that sort of aggro in their life? I would rather have a small group of good quality friends then a lot of friends who in fact are not really my friends at all. Since having this friendship cleanse I have been able to focus more on seeing the people that really matter to me, and I think, I matter to them.

I would love to hear any experiences/lessons learned that you guys have had over the last year. Please share anything you:)

Thanks for reading.

Danielle xxx

2 thoughts on “Things I Have Learnt In The Last 12 Months

  1. MainstreamHeretic says:

    Many things, but most importantly that everyone knows something that you do not. Ignorance, be it mostly unintentional can lead you to wrong conclusions all of the time. The saying ‘never attribute malice to that which can be explained as stupidity’ is also appropriate here, too many times I saw peoples action as bad, when they where actually just forgotten. I learned that by listening more, and interrupting people less has broadened my understanding of people, and how complex and interesting they really are, whoever they are 🙂

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